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I have 25 years of experience with marriage-
all 25 of those years spent with one and the same beloved husband
We are both Christians.
I am the stay at home mother of 8 children ranging in age from 5-23.
We do not practice birth control.
I have homeschooled (@5 years), as well as using private Christian schools, and public schools

Titus 2:4-5 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
[To be] discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

I studied the passage deeply: Click here to view an in depth bible study of Titus 2:4-5 including key word study links to facilitate a look beneath the surface into the language of the original autographs. I find that doing greek word study takes me to a new, deeper level of understanding God’s intentions expressed in His Word.

In this passage, I see God’s intention that the mature women teach the neos (newer, younger) to the end that their mind will be whole, sound, healed, that they will live consecrated, set apart for God, being able to perceive what is good and constructive and what is evil, that they have the charge to GUARD their home/marriage and keep themselves safe, protected, and chaste within their home and with their husbands.

Confession: I did it wrong for many years. (
I started this blog in the hope that perhaps someone will be spared from walking in the painful misunderstanding of God, His Word, and His intentions in which I walked. 😦
God is enlightening me and exchanging beauty for ashes. )

Once I really started digging deeply into God’s Word, I realized that some teaching which passes for “biblical” is fatally flawed in a way which proves destructive and counterproductive, and serves only to undermine marriage, hurt people, and keep them captive. (

I share here, not as an expert,
but as a student
in the process of being purified
in the crucible of my own marriage.

10 Comments leave one →
  1. November 29, 2007 9:17 pm


    When I get some time I am coming back and I am going to sit down with a Diet Coke over the perfect amount of ice poured into my favorite glass and read your blog! In the mean time, I am going to link to you since I think you have many good things to say.

  2. January 8, 2008 7:07 pm

    Charis, don’t limit yourself only to Titus 2, there’s so much more that women can do than in this chapter!

  3. January 9, 2008 7:08 am

    OK Mike. Thanks for your encouragement. I agree, there is so much more…. But I want the world to know that this scripture- properly understood- is not a cage, not a box, no. This chapter presents the very high, holy, dignified, powerful, anointed calling of a Christian wife and mother.

  4. May 2, 2008 6:08 am

    I want to link to you! How do I do that? I’m a blog neos as well as a mother neos and a wife neos….

  5. May 2, 2008 7:50 am

    Hi madame 🙂

    Welcome to blogging 🙂

    On a WordPress blog, you go to your dashboard and click “Settings” on the right hand side, then “Manage” and then “Links”.

    Grace and Peace,

  6. Kelli Canfield permalink
    March 20, 2009 3:54 pm

    Hi there. I am a new wife–since Oct 27, 2007!–and I am excited to read the things here. I wrote a little about the Titus passage on my blog as well ( but I focused more on what I had learned specifically from experience and time with the Lord instead of focusing on how to apply the whole and share that with others. I am glad to be reading your studies and even more excited to the Lord grow me in Him through working in you also!

    • March 20, 2009 4:57 pm

      Hi Kelly,

      Congratulations on your marriage!
      And thanks for dropping by 🙂
      I’ll come visit your blog.


  7. Vee permalink
    November 1, 2009 11:17 am


    It is so wonderful to see other women reach out to younger women ‘THE LORD’S WAY’ and not the way of the world. If we truly apply obedience to HIS Word, we WILL be a peculiar people and then we’ll feel proud to apply Matther 5:16, as all credit, glory and honor goes to HIM!

    Keep up the good work for the Lord and may blessings be poured upon you!

  8. Mom4Many permalink
    January 27, 2010 11:52 pm

    Hi Charis, Just want to say “thanks” for your website here. I have been searching so much for more information on this scripture. I have been married almost twenty years to my husband and we have four children that we have always home schooled. Over the last year the Lord has directed my heart to this scripture, I see my strengths and also my weaknesses. I have searched for books, internet information, etc. Yours is the first place where I have found truly good information. Thank you.
    A fellow servant in Christ.

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